Q: I’m having trouble finding a guy who is worth fussing over at all. All the good ones seem to be taken or they’re hooking up with a new girl every weekend. How do I find a boy who is worth my time?

A: Straight up, whether you’re looking for a hot date, boyfriend or soul mate, try to get this whole fussing idea out of your mind. Finding someone to fuss over is a waste of energy. Finding someone who is trustworthy and dependable — who doesn’t add stress to your life — is difficult but not impossible and definitely worth a small portion of your valuable time.
For starters, the ones who are taken are off limits (at least until the Facebook newsfeed informs you otherwise), and there is no use getting upset over it because there are plenty of others out there. In fact, there are actually other guys and girls who share your frustrations — lacking in the love department, but unable to find anyone good enough to fill the gap.
Now that you know you’re not alone, here’s something else to think about: If you feel like you’re not meeting the right guys or girls, perhaps you’re not looking in the right places. It’s important to think outside the box and to avoid getting stuck in the party rut. If you want a hook-up, then go for a hook-up. But if you want something more meaningful, a random night of fun probably won’t do the trick.
So open your eyes to the less obvious situations. Though it might take some extra effort, it’s worth it to meet a new guy or girl and make a new friend, at the very least. Talk to that guy who works at Rand. Ask that girl if she’ll help you study for the next HOD test. Let the other person know you are interested in being friends, and with a little luck, something more will follow.
The bottom line is that there are over 6,000 individuals at this university; and if you hang out at the Law School library, that number goes up even more. There are plenty of people at this school who are worth your time and consideration. Maybe if you stop obsessing over the lack of eligible bachelors and change your mindset to believe there are plenty of them here, then you’ll actually find one who wants to hang out with you.
If all else fails, be yourself and get on with your life. By doing what you enjoy, you will end up meeting people who share your interests and passions; and pursuing those passions is one way to put yourself closer to the person who will be passionate about you.

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